'Always say things in such a way as to inspire people, not discourage them'
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During the tenure of the first Victory’s Banner Restaurant, 1981-86, I would attend all the Christmas trips, which lasted two to three weeks back then. Sukantika, my spiritual sister who served as manager of the restaurant, would work overtime to cover my absence, so whenever Guru took his smaller European trips during the year, I would make an effort to send Sukantika.
Although the restaurant was always financially strapped, one year we were really hurting and didn’t have enough funds to send Sukantika on the mid-year European journey. I felt badly about this, and one day approached Guru on his porch, explaining that we didn’t have enough money and asking if it was absolutely necessary to send Sukantika. He said, “It is all a matter of consciousness. If her consciousness is going to fall, then she should definitely go. Consciousness comes before money.”
“Okay,” I replied, “I’ll tell her that.”
“Oh no, don’t tell her that!” Guru clarified. “Tell her that if she can keep her same good consciousness as it is and not go, then she doesn’t have to go.” Then he clarified, “The very suggestion that her consciousness may go down will serve as a seed to cause it to go down. Always say things in such a way as to inspire people, not discourage them.” It struck me how careful Guru is, down to the last word.
There is not a single seeker
Who cannot inspire others.
There is not a single seeker
Who cannot be inspired by others.Sri Chinmoy 1
- 1. Ten Thousand Flower-Flames, part 93, Agni Press, 1983
'Don't be sad, I am everywhere.'
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After Guru passed away, his vibration was still so strong. But I was very sad, of course. We were meditating in New York on October 11th. It was the anniversary of the first year, or maybe it was even the same year. My father had passed away and then Guru passed away and then my cat passed away.
My cat's name was Gokul. I was sitting, meditating, but feeling very sad and thinking: “Oh, Guru died, my father died, my cat died. Guru, everything is so sad.”
Then I heard Guru's voice inwardly and he said, "Listen!" I had been playing music, but not really listening. Just when I heard Guru say, "Listen!" I realised that the Bhajan song playing was “Bhaja Govinda charana ra binda shyama sundara Gokul ananda.” The name of my cat was Gokul.
The exact minute that I was thinking: “sad, sad,” it was like Guru heard me. Then I heard his voice saying: "Listen!" He was telling me: “I am everywhere, I am everywhere. Don't be sad. I am everywhere.”
My evening descends,
And I see and feel everywhere
God's Sweetness-Presence.Sri Chinmoy 1
- 1. My evening descends, 25 September, Agni Press, 1996
I play tennis every day
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I met Guru for the first time in the airport in Los Angeles in a hotel meeting room. He had a long layover on his flight home from the Christmas trip. It was very nice. Guru told his singers to come up and sing a song that he had just written.
The leader of the group, Haridas, a famous composer from Paris, had put it into an eight-part harmony. He said, "I don't know if we can do it, Guru, because many people have gone home."
Guru said, "Try anyway."
The song they sang was: 'I play tennis every day'. I knew in my heart he was having them sing that song for me, even though he had never met me before.
Later on, maybe a few years later, I heard Guru say that the ABC's of being a spiritual master, is you can easily read anybody's mind. But don't worry—if he reads your mind, even if he sees horrible thoughts, Guru would only try and help us with our aspiration and inspiration.
I play tennis every day
I play tennis every day
To join my Lord's Vision-Play.
I am the surrender-ball:
All joy in a body small.
Tennis, tennis, tennis game,
My heart's perfection-flame.Sri Chinmoy 1
- 1. I play tennis every day, Agni Press, 1994
The first time we met our Guru
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Five or six years ago I was running in London in front of Kensington Gardens. A car came so close to me that I got frightened and jumped onto the sidewalk. A man came out of the car and said, “We are your disciples.”
Then the whole family came out. It was Kaivalya, Bhavani and their two boys. I did not recognise them, even though they had already come to New York. Now I know the family so well.
Sri Chinmoy 1
Devashishu: The first time that I actually met Guru was in 1978. I was nine years old. It was a complete surprise because we were driving through London with our family, and with our grandmother as well. We were driving to see an art gallery.
Kaivalya: My wife, Bhavani, had been in New York and had seen Guru, but the rest of the family had not seen him in person yet.
We were driving in London on a Sunday afternoon, and suddenly Bhavani said, “There's Guru!” I was driving and I said, “Guru’s in New York! It can't be Guru!” But I looked in the mirror and I saw Guru. So, I turned the car around and we jumped out and ran towards Guru.
Sahadeva: My father had to do a U-turn in the street, a very busy street. He pulled over, we all jumped out and we saw Guru about 20 metres away. We all approached Guru, my mother first and then us.
Guru was travelling to India. He used to visit London when, in those days, Air India flights would stop in London on their way from New York to India.
Devashishu: He had some takeaway food, some food he had bought from a restaurant in his hands and he was trying to cross this big road.
We started running towards Guru when we got out of the vehicle. Guru was a little bit worried because he saw these people running at him. He was a little bit concerned. But my mother explained to Guru, "We are your disciples. We've been studying in your London Centre." My mother had been to New York one time already.
Sahadeva: Then he looked at us - Mum says he was a little confused at first - but then he saw me and my brother Devashishu, two little boys, and he had a big smile on his face.
Devashishu: The funniest thing was that my grandmother was with us and she had no idea what was going on. She also got to meet Guru, but she really had no idea who Guru was. So she was kind of there, but she didn't really know what was happening.
I was nine years old. My brother Sahadeva was seven. It's quite a faint memory now. But what I do remember very clearly, I remember Guru talking to my parents and saying a few very nice words to my parents. Then he meditated with us on the street, right in this big, busy street. He just meditated on us there in the street. He put his hands, one hand on my head and one hand on my brother's head and he just meditated in silence.
I do remember the joy I felt. It was an incredible experience. Me and my brother, we were both just filled with so much joy. There was this tremendous feeling of love coming from Guru. For me it was a feeling of finding someone who I knew. I felt like I knew this person very well, somebody who's very familiar, and also finding someone that I didn't realize I had been looking for, someone I was desperately looking for.
Sahadeva: It was a beautiful, very short meeting, and Guru blessed me and Devashishu on the head in the middle of the street with all these people walking past. We had so much joy. Guru was flying the next day off to India. Me and Devashishu remember that occasion - there was so much joy. Our hearts were bursting with joy.
Kaivalya: Bhavani said to Guru, “Can we tell everybody in London Centre that you are here?”
Guru said, “Oh no, I am going back to New York tomorrow morning early. So, I would rather you did not do that.”
That evening we went to London Centre for meditation, and we couldn't say anything about Guru being in London. My wife found it very difficult. The next morning, she phoned the hotel in London where Guru was staying. She found out that Guru had left the hotel and so then immediately she told everybody in the Centre.
That was the first time I saw Guru.
Devashishu: I remember we went to this art gallery afterwards. Me and my brother, we were just, as we say in English, walking on air. We were so happy and so full of something new and beautiful that we just didn't feel like we were walking on the ground. For hours, for days, we were left with this wonderful feeling from meeting Guru.
God surprised me
By coming into my life
Quite unexpectedly.
I am surprising God
By staying inside His Heart-Garden
Permanently.Sri Chinmoy 2
- 1. Run and become, become and run, part 17, Agni Press, 1986
- 2. Twenty-Seven Thousand Aspiration-Plants, part 205, Agni Press, 1994
If I can smile like that, it's worth becoming a disciple
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I came to the United States from India at the age of twenty-seven. I came to Miami for my higher studies. I had started meditation in India on my own, reading some books. But even though people imagine that everybody in India meditates, that's not the case. I did not know a single person my age who meditated.
I was still hungering for a spiritual community when I came to Miami. There was a friend and classmate at the university who would bring me meditation books. She was going somewhere for meditation. She brought me Guru's books Beyond Within and Father and Daughter and other books that she had from where she went to meditate. The books really connected with me. I felt it was exactly the way I imagined meditation would be. It was focused on the heart. I was dying to go for meditation classes. This was 1993.
Finally in 1994, I started going for meditation classes. It took a while. My first meditation class was exactly what I had imagined. At the end of the meditation, I got to meet with the teacher, who was Durjaya from the Miami Centre. I still remember talking to him after the class. My soul was so happy that I was shaking like a leaf.
Then I started coming to the meditation centre. Actually, the first trip that I made to the Centre – it was a class, I was still not a disciple – I saw a double rainbow!
I have to say that I will be forever grateful to the Miami centre for all their love, their kindness, their warmth and the way they brought me into their hearts.
I will be forever, forever, eternally grateful to Guru because how he could bring me all the way from India to him here in the US? The outer reason was my studies, but the inner reason that I came to the United States was because Guru was here.
[Comment: Usually Americans think of going to India to find their Master. You did the opposite.]
Yes, wherever our Guru is, we have to go there. Soon after, in May 1994, I had the opportunity to come to New York. I had applied to be a disciple but I had not yet been accepted.
I first saw Guru in PS 86. It was crowded and I was all the way in the back of the auditorium. I couldn't see Guru very well but I saw the disciples and I remember them so clearly. Their smiles were so beautiful. I said to myself that even if I don't go very far spiritually, if I can smile like that, it's worth becoming a disciple.
In July 1994 I became a disciple. That was also a very special experience, very personal.
Divine journey
The divine journey
Is the continuous, eternal journey
That is not only nearing God-Reality
But is actually bringing God-Reality
To itself.
And this journey is not only the soul's
Continuous preparation
In us,
But also the soul's full blossoming
For us.Sri Chinmoy 1
- 1. Silence-seed and sound-fruit, Agni Press, 1975
If I could remember this in my daily life now, I'd be a very high soul
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Guru visited the running shop Run and Become in London. Many disciples came—too many—and we couldn't get everybody inside. Guru was sitting by the till with the owners Ongkar, Vinodini, and their two girls, Shankara and Dipika. Guru asked that we stop letting people in. I was asked to be the guard at the door.
Then a very famous ultra-distance runner from Scotland called Don Ritchie came to see Guru. Now, how am I to tell Guru that he is here? I just concentrated very hard at the door. I looked at Guru and concentrated. I don't know about the third eye; I was just concentrating. I was very serious, very strongly telling Guru from inside, “Guru, please listen to me. Don Ritchie is here to see you.” Guru looked up and said, “So Don Ritchie is here. Bring him in.”
This happened to me several times during my discipleship and my relationship with Guru. Several times I needed to say something to Guru. I did this very thing [inwardly speaking to Guru], and he always responded in the same way. If I could remember this in my daily life now, I'd be a very high soul.
I wish to hear Your Nectar-Message.
Therefore, I always remain inside
The garden of my heart.
You wish to hear my inner message.
Therefore, You remain inside air all around me.Sri Chinmoy 1
- 1. My green adoration-gifts, part 2, 1977 (Translation of song Tomar katha shunbo ami)
Your life's responsibilities compel you to develop inner strength
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Whenever I visited Guru in New York, it was usually an escape from my responsibilities in Chicago. With that escape came more opportunity to meditate, and maintain what appeared to be better spiritual discipline.
Therefore, I was surprised when Guru told me that when I am in Chicago, I make more progress. This was exactly contrary to my perceptions. So I said, “Guru, you know, I don’t see it. You say I make more spiritual progress back in Chicago. I don’t feel spiritual progress in Chicago. I feel nothing but struggle, nothing but difficulty.”
And he said, “No, no, no, it’s not like that. Think of the weightlifter. The weightlifter lifts weights. Now, you can take all the weight off the barbell and the weightlifter says, ‘Oh, look how easy it is for me. I can lift the weight so many times.’ Now, put weights on the barbell. Immediately he will see it is much more difficult to lift. But in which way is he developing more strength? When the barbell has weights, of course.” He added, “True, it is more difficult to lift. But at the same time, he is developing more strength. In life, what are your weights? Nothing other than your life’s responsibilities, or you can call it your duties. Your life’s responsibilities are the weights. So when you go back to Chicago, you assume your life’s responsibilities, and it is these responsibilities that compel you to develop inner strength.”
Sometimes there’s a delicate balance between what we deem to be life-struggles and what truly are our proper life-opportunities. Life is constantly challenging us with the opportunity for self-transcendence.
Responsibility cannot weigh you down
If you take responsibility
As a God-approved opportunity.
It can only lift you and your life
To the higher worlds.Sri Chinmoy 1
- 1. Twenty-Seven Thousand Aspiration-Plants, part 9, Agni Press, 1983
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